I've been married longer than I haven't been married and to the same woman. Here are my 3 tips to a successful marriage.
1. Be best friends. Find things you both enjoy and do them together just as you would with any friend. Take an active interest in what they like and enjoy. You should both enjoy doing things together, hanging out, and sharing life as friends. Like the song says, "how can we be lovers, if we can't be friends."
2. Be open about sex. I'm not going to say how much sex you should have or what kind of sex. But you should be honest with each other about what you want in your sex life. You should be open to what the other person wants and needs in your sex life. And you should respect the boundaries of the other person. Sex should always be something that brings you closer and never drives you apart. (I will give one specific sex advise...hotel sex. Make plans to take overnight and weekend trips to a hotel just for sex. Do this a few times a year.)
3. Go to bed angry. I know you have heard the saying, "never go to bed angry." Well I disagree. Most arguments are dumb and not worth the time, but if you continue an argument when it is late and you are both tired it will only get worse. You are going to fight. It happens, but if you linger on it and drain yourself every time you argue it will put a strain on you both. Sometimes the best solution to an argument is to agree to sleep on it and let things calm down. Usually in the morning after you are refreshed you see the argument was dumb after all.
